How to stop feeling irritated and annoyed at your spouse

Ask yourself, "What is the best way to avoid this argument?" When you feel irritated, or annoyed you have to learn to let go of some things. 

Think about how he may feel, or what he is thinking. Understanding and listening are a lot easier than getting angry and ruining a marriage. 

Be thankful! What are some of your flaws, things your spouse has to deal with? When you ask yourself these questions, you will see more clearly.